To See or Not to See, before the wedding.

I was doing a little Blog Reading and I can across this post by RELENTLESSBRIDE on Blogger Bride at getmarried.com.


We have had many Brides ask about meeting before the Ceremony and we love it for many reason but do understand tradition. But where do those tradition begins. While most of the Wedding traditions come from a very very long time ago, and we see that some might be out of style..

So here is the tradition about it being "Bad Luck" to see each other before the wedding:


"The tradition holds to the idea that in ancient times, often the first time the bride and groom saw one another was at the actual ceremony b/c many marriages were arranged. Thus, in fear that either the bride or groom would reject the other prior based on disliking the other's looks, they were kept from seeing one another until the actual ceremony. Also, the veil was used to hidden the bride's face until the actual ceremony was done and the legalities were sealed with a kiss at which point, it was too late to change your mind. Thus, they say it is bad luck to see each other before the actual ceremony. As one blogger puts it "So the tradition that it’s “bad luck” for a man to see his bride before the ceremony really started out as insurance for her dad (b/c he had arranged the marriage of his daughter with a stranger)"

Reasons why many people are going the "non-traditional" route and seeing each other pre-ceremony:

* The wow moment can still be there as when you walk down the aisle, except in
this private moment, the bride and groom can truly enjoy it with full
emotion and the privacy of holding on to that moment between the two.
* Photographs can be taken of immediate family, friends and bridal party.
This can help make the after ceremony photo session shorter, and give the
bride and groom a chance to enjoy the cocktail hour with their guests.
* Getting the photographer to focus on "the moment" that the bride and groom see
each other. The Bride and Groom can also pick the scenery in which these
pics will be taken... this can give this set of photos a more artistic
scenery while also maintaining the pictures from the actual ceremony.
* It can alleviate the "stress" of seeing one another making the moment more
enjoyable and less stressful during the ceremony.
* Enjoy the photo shoot without worrying about the guests or that you are missing
out on the cocktail hour
* You feel fresher. Make up, hair and etc are all fresher. And if its earlier in
the day, it could be cooler depending on which season you have your wedding in
* Technically, last minute details can be discussed - although this is not so
romantic, it can definitely help in the practicality aspect.

The part that appeals most to me is that the photographer can really capture the moment (and the immediate moments that lead to) the first moment we see one another. It really can be more romantic and dramatic this way, b/c the wow factor would still be there but there will would also be less distraction!"


Anyone have any thoughts on this?


We shot a beautiful wedding over the weekend and will be posting some images soon.



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